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Fancy getting a bit kinky? Then a remote control vibrator or remote control sex toy could be just the thing. There’s a huge range of these toys available – from butt plugs and egg vibrators that make for kinky power play accessories, to cock rings, strap-ons, and couple’s toys that are perfect for adventurous partner play or long-distance fun. There are also remote control bullet vibes which you can use with a partner or play with solo, if you’re after a hands-free masturbation sesh. So many options!
Just like with vibrating knickers, the beauty of a remote control vibrator is that it is an opportunity to surrender control of your pleasure to a partner, letting them choose the vibration strength and pattern. For you, it’s a chance to switch off and enjoy the ride while for them it can be a thrill to take charge of what you feel and when.
However, as with any sexual activity that involves power play, make sure to negotiate safe words, hard limits and consent before you get started experimenting with a remote control vibrator. A safe word is an agreed upon word that, once uttered, signals that sexual activity being attempted between you and a partner(s) needs to stop immediately. Safe words tend to be words that wouldn’t crop up normally in sex play: fruits like “pineapple” and colours such as “red” are common. Hard limits are pre-agreed no-gos that your partner(s) should not attempt during sex play.
And now that all of that has been covered, without further ado we give you: the best remote control vibrators to try solo or with a partner(s)...
This discreet bullet vibrator can be controlled via remote to deliver 10 vibration patterns and 6 intensity levels for external stimulation on your clit and vulva. It’s not for internal stimulation, so don’t use it inside, people!
It’s super easy to use, too, so is great for beginners. Just use the buttons to cycle through speeds and patterns.
It can even be used up to 3-5 metres away for play outside the bedroom...
Treat yourself with this Self Love vibrating egg. It has three speeds and seven different patterns for you to explore yourself, or let your lover take control.
It's also super pretty, made from super-soft pink silicon with a rose gold controller - you won't want to hide this one away in your nightstand.
This sleek egg vibrator is great for sex toy novices. Its smooth, satisfying shape makes for an exciting foreplay addition, providing deep internal stimulation.
With 7 vibration speeds and patterns, you – or your partner – can play around to find out what really gets you going.
It’s also nicely compact, easy to clean, and totally waterproof, so can be used in the bath or shower. The remote isn’t waterproof, though, so make sure your lover is controlling it from a distance. Luckily, the remote works from up to four metres away.
Although this one’s more on the expensive side, you get what you pay for!
LELO’s luxury Lyla 2 remote control bullet vibrator is designed to fit all body shapes and even has controls that respond to movement. It’s also made of extra-soft silicone that feels warm to the touch, for more comfortable pleasure.
Due to its discreet size and shape, this could be a great option for couples who are feeling brave and are interested in experimenting with remote control sex toys in public.
If you want to try using anal toys for the first (or second, or third) time, this butt plug is a great shout.
It’s not too big, and if you use lube you can slip it in gently and comfortably. Once it’s in, you can experiment with a generous 10 vibration patterns and 6 speeds. It can be controlled from 3-5 metres away, so you don’t even have to be in the same room.
Take it slow and make sure you’re comfy (don’t forget lube!), and then use the remote to control the vibrations.
If you and your partner are turned on by realistic-looking vibrators, then this one’s for you.
Ann Summers’ 5-inch hollow strap-on (for a partner with a penis to slip on, over the top of their member) is great for partnered play. With an elasticated harness and remote control that lets you flick through multiple vibration speeds, it’s fantastic for spicing up penetration.
Don’t fear: it can also be used alone for hands-free solo fun.
We-Vibe is an exciting sex toy/tech brand, and this G-spot vibrator is worth splashing out on if it’s within your budget.
This compact toy has 10 powerful vibration modes and can be used for internal or clit stimulation.
Just connect the beautifully soft and perfectly curved toy to the app, and you or your partner can control the pleasure. Woop.
Did someone say triple stimulation?
This neat couple’s toy is designed in a U-shape, so it targets your G-spot, your clit, and, in penetrative sex, your partner’s penis too. Play around with the 10 vibration settings to find the one that suits you both, and away you go!
The remote is almost an added bonus – for when you’re vibing more with mutual masturbation, experimenting with public play, or all alone at home.
If you love a remote-controlled vibrator, but hate fiddly buttons, then We-Vibe’s Chorus is for you.
This couple’s toy comes with a squeeze remote, so you can change intensity of its vibrations more easily in the heat of the moment – the tighter you squeeze, the stronger the vibration gets.
Chorus also has touch-sensitive receptors that respond to your movements, so, when you’re wearing it during sex, it’s intuitively responding, as well as simultaneously stimulating your clit, G-spot, and, during penetrative sex, your partner’s penis. Dual orgasms, here you come!
It can easily be controlled via the app from anywhere, too – ideal for long distance lovers.
SVAKOM’s Elva egg could be described as small but mighty. This cute, compact toy really packs a punch!
With 5 vibration modes, and 5 intensities in every mode, you’ve got 25 mind-blowing settings to play with. Controllable with or without the equally compact remote control, you can experiment solo or with your partner.
It’s also super quiet, waterproof, and has a string for easy removal. What more could you want?
Mysteryvibe’s Crescendo is a revelation, in that it it can be whatever you want it to be. Clit stimulator? Check. Can it hit your G-spot? Absolutely. What about P-spot? Yep. It can even be bent into a circle, and turned into a masturbator.
Infinitely flexible and designed to mimic your fingers, the toy also boasts 6 motors and 16 vibration settings. Unlike some of the other toys on this list, it doesn’t come with a remote, and is instead controlled via the Mysteryvibe app (though you can buy a remote separately).
As its thin, soft, and malleable, it’s great for beginners and aficionados alike.
With this toy, Bondara and Rocks Off give you two toys in one. As well as the traditional vibrating love egg, the remote also vibrates, perfect for extra clit stimulation.
With 10 vibration settings that can be controlled from up to 10 metres away, you’ll never get bored, especially as, given how discreet it is, you can experiment outside of the house, too.
Be warned: while the egg is waterproof, the remote is only splashproof. Something to remember when you (and your beau) move into the bathroom.
This ergonomic vibrating egg is designed to fit neatly and comfortably into all bodies, sending vibrations right through you, including to your G-spot.
It features 3 vibration speeds and 4 patterns, and can be controlled from up to 10 metres away. It’s not quiet whisper-quiet, as it sells itself, but it’s also not loud. This, combined with its compact size, makes it great for discreet, public play.
Just remember to add a little lube before you go out.
Why choose want kind of pleasure you want? This remote controlled VIVE vibe offers a little bit of everything.
Enjoys G-spot stimulation from the 10-function shaft while you grind on the clit stimulator -which has 10 vibrating patterns thanks to it's separate motor. Oh, did we mention the anal beads have 10 settings too?
"Katu's three powerful motors are independently controlled so that you can find the perfect stimulation intensity at your leisure with the simple base controls or via the handheld remote," says Bondara.
Cock rings are a great way to take your partnered-sex to the next level; they feel great for the person wearing them, and the vibrations can be powerful clit stimulators.
This one puts the power in your hands, letting you control the settings via a remote-control.
"The removable bullet has three speed settings and seven vibration patterns for you to explore with or without the remote, sending pleasurable vibrations to you both," explains Ann Summers.
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